How to Love Your Body (Even Though You Hate It)


How to love your body (Even though you hate it)

Did you know that 95% of your thoughts each day are subconscious?

Whoa, right?

Think of your subconscious mind like a hard drive which stores information so that your computer can function on autopilot.

So our subconscious mind is waaaay more powerful than our conscious mind because it shapes how we live our lives since it controls 95% of our thoughts.

We create our bodies in our mental image, so we are a direct reflection of what’s going on in our subconscious minds.

How does this apply to weight loss?

  • How your negative self image is causing you to gain weight
  • Why reaching your ideal weight won’t guarantee happiness unless you do this…
  • A simple exercise to do each night that will shift your mind allowing excess weight to release 

 Video Transcription

Every time you’ve had a negative association with losing weight or how you look, it gets filed away in your subconscious mind.

Think how often that is. Every time you:

  • Curse yourself for how terrible you look
  • “Fail” at a diet
  • Compare yourself to thinner peers or magazine covers
  • Name areas of your body like thunder thighs or muffin top
  • Decline dinner parties because you don’t want to be “seen” in public
  • Avoid family pictures because you’re embarrassed about how you look

All of these negative thoughts get filed away, and over time, become deeply rooted in your subconscious mind.

Remember what I said in my last video. The body follows the mind. Commit that to memory!

Reaching what you consider to be your “ideal weight” will not guarantee automatic self acceptance and happiness.

If you have a negative self image about how you look stored in your subconscious mind, and all you do is diet and exercise, your body will never be good enough, even if you get down to your ideal weight!

Because you’ll still look in the mirror and see cellulite.
Or your inner thighs still touch.
Or now your skin sags.

Do you see what I mean?

Your body will never be good enough because you still have that negative self image buried into your subconscious mind of who you think you are, and the body follows the mind.

So you need to focus on reaching self acceptance first rather than reaching your weight loss goal.

One simple exercise to start making that shift

Get a journal. (Here’s my favorite.)

Every night write down two things you’re grateful for as it relates to your body.

Add this to your routine each night along with saying your mantra 20 times. Watch my last video for those instructions.

Slowly but surely we’ll chip away at that negative body image buried inside your subconscious mind.

Make sure and watch my next video because I’ll give you a simple exercise to end body bashing in 5 minutes.

Now you.

In the comments below, let me know ONE thing you’re grateful for as it relates to your body.





  1. Kendra Sayles

    I am grateful to be as strong as I am. This was a great, great video Mariah…and so true! I have done nothing my ENTIRE LIFE but beat myself up constantly about the way I look, always feeling so inadequate and flawed. Time to totally ditch the misguided and dangerous concepts of what popular society tells women is beautiful and “acceptable” and makes one “worthy.”

    • Mariah Dolan

      Thanks so much for your comment, Kendra. And yes, it’s time to ditch the self hate! I wish we weren’t so darned hard on ourselves, right? We’re so kind and loving to our sisters, friends, daughters…but say such mean things to ourselves.

      I’m so glad you brought up what society says is “acceptable” and what makes one worthy, because my husband and I were speaking about this the other day. We were talking about “thigh gaps” in women and how many women are trying to achieve that. He said “Why? I think that’s gross. It’s way more sexy when a women’s thighs touch especially if they’re muscular.”

      See? Just because the media is constantly telling us what we should look like, doesn’t mean everybody else sees beauty that way. So good for you for forging ahead and loving yourself for who you are NOW.



  2. Kelly

    I love the idea of journaling positive statements about our body. I frequently use my gratitude journal to give thanks for this wonderful body I occupy.

    Today I am grateful for my flexibility. I appreciate my ability to bend, reach, crouch, stretch – pain free and with ease.
    Long may it last!

    • Mariah Dolan

      LOVE that you’re journaling already and giving thanks to the beautiful body you have. If only more of us practiced kindness towards ourselves and our bodies, we wouldn’t have to fight so hard for every pound lost. The body would naturally follow what your brain is “thinking.”

      I’m so happy your grateful for you flexibility. That’s one we often take for granted!



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